9a iii). Analyze the role of the home in influencing love and Acceptance of a child.
The Home Influences Love and Acceptance
The home is usually the first social environment that the social encounters. It provides the child with the earliest social experiences as he interacts with mother, father siblings and other people. These people normally referred to as significant others in the child’s life lay down the foundations of trust or mistrust.
During infancy and early childhood, the individual will learn to trust the mother, then the self and the world if they are exposed to
- a stable loving, acceptable and warm social environment.
- Parental love and acceptance sow the seeds of trust and feelings of security in the child
- These become the foundation upon which psychological health is built. There are those children who suffer rejection and who are unloved.
- These develop a deep mistrust towards the mother, the self and the world. They feel insecure and their psychological development starts on a troubled note. It is therefore, extremely important for parents to ensure that their young ones enjoy love and acceptance because these lay down the foundations of psychological health.
Time Spent at Home
The time a child spends at home with family members is very important in the determination of personality.
- The critical issue and one which many parents may be oblivious about is the fact that family influences on personality are greater when a major part of one’s time is spent in the home with family members.
- Here we are concerned about the amount of time parents and children spend together at home.
- The amount of time spent with a person determines how significant that person is.
- Many times parents imagine that if they provide for the physical needs of children
- They have done their work
- If they have paid for their fees,
- There is food at home and other necessities are catered for
- So what else does the child want from me? The child needs to spend time with parents both the father and the mother.
- If the parent is pending time with the child then it becomes easy to influence his attitudes values and behaviour.
Question: Who is at home with the Children?
In many Kenyan homes the child is with other children raising each other with a little help from the television and other electronic devices while the “ayah” cooks and cleans around the house. This means that for some children parental influence is a remote possibility. Many parents are strangers to their children and vise versa